You start to talk.
You try to explain some weirdness.
They totally get it.
They totally get you.
You connect so quickly.
You feel so understood.
They speak as if in your native language.
They understand the perspective, the weirdness, and the challenges.
It is almost as if, as a good friend of mine says…
“They are from my Home Planet.”
They are out there.
You can find them.
They are from your Home Planet.
P.S. Remind them of their impact when you find them.
Two words that are the result of your own journey, hardship, or loss.
Two words that can drive loneliness, fear, doubt, and insecurity away.
Two words that provides comfort in a time of need.
Two words that connect you to others.
I went through…
I am struggling with…
I feel scared, insecure, lost, not enough…
These experiences mold, shape, bend, and sometimes almost break us.
And then we hear those two words that help us see that we can survive, we can move forward, we can become something else, and we can become strong.
Perhaps the more important reminder is that we are not alone.
Most of the phone calls that come my way are from people who need something. This seems like an obvious occupational hazard for a consultant who is trying to help others. However, I began to think that this pattern is deeper than just my work world. Over the past few weeks I started to keep track.
Text from kiddo – request for money.
Text from family – request to service their cars.
Phone call from friend – needed advice on issue.
Phone call from colleague – request to cover a meeting.
In the midst of this tracking experiment, there was one call that stood out:
The “Everything is Okay” phone call.
I didn’t actually take the call, it went to voicemail. Imagine my surprise when I listened to that message.
“Hey Carl, just wanted you to know that everything is okay I was just calling to connect with you and say Hi.”
It was just the call I needed. At times, the constant giving of yourself to others, their needs, and their problems can become a solitary place.
Relationships begin to feel like one-way streets.
I am taking this person’s example and trying an experiment of my own. Deliberate and intentional communication with others to connect with them, not to request from them.
Give it a try this week. Who knows, it may just change the world.