Category: Habits

Hating Salmon and Lemon Squares

“He hates Salmon.” “He hates Lemon Squares.” “He is grumpy if he doesn’t eat.” “He is grumpy if woken from a nap.” “He [insert event, either one time or a repeated event that happened, and form a hard-wired rule about the person despite the…

The Illogical Path

We get jobs. We work in a particular field. We move on, either by our choice or others. We are faced with a choice. We can follow the logical path. Stay in or close to our field. Connect with our network. Find something similar….

The Efficiency Expert

They are in every organization. They look at your process, workflow, or procedures and wonder why you are doing things that way. They scan the world and see what you cannot see: wasted time, wasted effort, wasted energy. They may be perceived as complaining,…

Strong, but Not Bitter

I like coffee. I like strong coffee. I like strong coffee roasted in small batches by someone I know. I like strong coffee served in a skull mug that was hand crafted in a wood-fired kiln by someone who I also know. I like…

More Flexible, Less Fear

The other day someone asked me to describe my two biggest goals in life. Once I got over the “Hey, I thought this was going to be a casual conversation!” I spent some time thinking about my response. The reply didn’t come right away,…

The Less Than Default Switch

After hearing similar narratives during different coaching sessions, a pattern became clear. Different people, same narratives. Different issues, same descriptions. Different positions, same struggles. “I want to write, I would love to write, but I am not good enough compared to him/her.” “Other people…

Habit Residue

We all have Habits. Certain things we do that are a recurring pattern. Some we enjoy and are positive in our lives. Others are not great for us, and we struggle with changing them. Habits become wired in our brains so we can focus…

Ask or Act

(Images courtesy of seespotshinedogtraining.com and nhmountainhiking.com) Two simple choices. Ask or Act. If things were only that easy. As I learn more about our “fight or flight” reaction in our brains, there is another “f” reaction that seems to take hold. Freeze. The state…

Lists are Good

I have a love/hate relationship with lists. Lists keep track of what needs to be done. Lists can feel overwhelming when there are so many things to be done. A friend recently had a contractor over their house. The house needed numerous small repairs. As…

Glasses or Binoculars

Both of these tools have lenses, and are designed to help us see the world more clearly in their respective application. They are not competing with each other, but we may favor one over the other in our lives. When looking at a situation,…

The Relationship Reset Button

(Image Courtesy of Acceleraction.com) So often in relationships, whether at home or work, with family or friends or loved ones, the past can overly shape the present. You had a disagreement with that person. Now every interaction is awkward. You lost your cool. Now others walk…

Noticing the Artwork

(Image Courtesy of Iain Young) At work we are conducting an experiment. By “we” I mean me and another coworker. By “experiment” I mean we are messing with stuff and watching for results. The Background Throughout the building there are various framed photos, paintings,…

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