Category: Family

Conversations and How to Have Them

Together we discussed friendship, which was one of my favorite experiences. But recently I have noticed that friendship (or relationships in general) are built and fueled by conversations. Over the past few months I have been observing conversations. But conversations are weird. Some are like…

Hating Salmon and Lemon Squares

“He hates Salmon.” “He hates Lemon Squares.” “He is grumpy if he doesn’t eat.” “He is grumpy if woken from a nap.” “He [insert event, either one time or a repeated event that happened, and form a hard-wired rule about the person despite the…

New Patterns, New Memories

Getting together with people, especially with those who are close, is not always easy. Logistics. What time, where, who, and what? Dynamics. The past, the incident, that time, and those words. Expectations. The food, the venue, the relationships, and the activities. Patterns. When to…

The Forgiveness Receipt

We do something wrong. There is a transaction that needs to occur. We need to apologize. We need to say we are sorry and ask for forgiveness. A real apology: Not a “I am sorry if I [offended, hurt, misunderstood, overreacted…] But more of…

Perspective

Ironically I got to speak to a group on emotional intelligence a week before the holidays. We joked about how the class was a perfect place to learn and practice before we interacted with our families and friends at various celebrations. Stress can run…

Celebrate Events

(Image Courtesy of My Daughter, and the Washington Monument) A few years ago I wrote about lessons I learned from my mom. They were simple lessons: Be Tough. Work Hard. Celebrate Events. Last week, I was able to share these lessons with the crowd of family and…

More Flexible, Less Fear

The other day someone asked me to describe my two biggest goals in life. Once I got over the “Hey, I thought this was going to be a casual conversation!” I spent some time thinking about my response. The reply didn’t come right away,…

Moats, Distance, and Drawbridges

  (Caerlaverock Castle in Scotland courtesy of Wikipedia) On the call the other day, I was connecting and checking in with someone important to me. They were describing an old relationship that did not end well. They had been hurt. Words were exchanged. The relationship,…

The Hill Rule

Our youngest daughter recently began running with me. We found some new shoes and planned a run. “How far do you want to go on your first run?” “How far do you normally go when you go off running?” “Well my typical everyday route…

Glasses or Binoculars

Both of these tools have lenses, and are designed to help us see the world more clearly in their respective application. They are not competing with each other, but we may favor one over the other in our lives. When looking at a situation,…

The Relationship Reset Button

(Image Courtesy of Acceleraction.com) So often in relationships, whether at home or work, with family or friends or loved ones, the past can overly shape the present. You had a disagreement with that person. Now every interaction is awkward. You lost your cool. Now others walk…

The Cost of Free

Recently, someone was describing a difficult relationship. This is no ordinary difficult relationship, but one with someone who is deeply connected with this person. They have a long history. It has been difficult. They still have to interact on a regular basis. To make…

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