I’ve been on a bit of a creative hiatus.
The past year has been full of stress, survival, and isolation.
Writing has been the furthest thing from my mind.
Most weeks are filled with solving new problems and trying to achieve goals while feeling like I am treading water to stay afloat.
To help come up for air (and rest my tired limbs apparently), I recently embarked on a mental fitness journey that helps to provide relief from those parts of us that become overextended through fear and anxiety.
The program includes meeting with fellow coaches weekly to discuss our collective journey.
During a call last night with these amazing coaches we were reviewing when achievement is an insatiable burden where we seek validation, competition, and comparison instead of being self-directed and satisfying.
Our conversation drifted to how this overextension impacts our weekends, and our ability to rest or take time for ourselves.
“I cannot believe I slept in until 10 AM on Saturday. I kept thinking about it and how I was not going to be able to get my stuff done.”
“I make a list of all the things I need to get accomplished each weekend, and if I don’t get it all done, I feel bad.”
As we each shared our own version of this “hyper-achievement” we saw the pattern. The ugly self-judgement that comes from pushing hard without taking a break.
It was that very moment that Tammy, one of the coaches provided the Sage-like words of wisdom for all of us. While pondering if it was okay to rest a little or if we had permission to not accomplish every single thing on that list.
“Who Gives a Sh!t”
Who Gives a Sh!t if all your stuff gets done when you are tired and worn out all the time.
Who Gives a Sh!t: It’s okay to take care of yourself.
Who Gives a Sh!t: Sleep in if your body and mind are tired.
Who Gives a Sh!t: Rest when you need it (let’s hear it for naps!)
Who Gives a Sh!t: Stop making so many lists.
Who Gives a Sh!t: Go do something fun.
What fun thing will you do this week/weekend?
As for my never-ending weekend list – Who Gives a Sh!t: I’m going to get some Gelato.