We do something wrong. There is a transaction that needs to occur.
We need to apologize. We need to say we are sorry and ask for forgiveness.
A real apology:
“I am sorry if I [offended, hurt, misunderstood, overreacted…]
But more of a
“I am sorry for [offending, hurting, misunderstanding, overreacting…]
I read recently that how we respond during this transaction is important. Instead of saying “that is okay” which implies that what occurred was acceptable, the article encouraged people to complete the transaction with “I accept your apology” or if you are able “I forgive you.”
A helpful idea ran through my mind: The Forgiveness Receipt.
The Forgiveness Receipt would be proof of the transaction.
The Forgiveness Receipt could serve two purposes.
Purpose One: A reminder for the person that needed to ask for forgiveness. I recently noticed that I tend to apologize more than once, as if the first one didn’t take. The person I kept apologizing to kindly reminded me that we had already transacted this apology, and I didn’t need to keep revisiting the issue. The issue is gone, and The Forgiveness Receipt would be a great reminder, especially when I am feeling a little insecure.
Purpose Two: A reminder for the person that forgave. I also noticed that I tend to revisit old offenses, long after the transaction. The Forgiveness Receipt would serve to remind me that the I forgave, and can no longer hold that offense against the other person.
Until I can find a receipt book worthy of this task, The Forgiveness Receipt will be more of a mental note. Or maybe this T-Shirt would serve as a better reminder.
Be sure to ask about your receipt.