Meeting new people is great. Meeting this particular group was great because they are new (so you can ask a ton of fun questions and hear new stories) and they are going to be connected with us moving forward.
As I reflect it was more like holding an interview for someone who already got the job. No pressure, just getting to know one another, because the outcome is already decided.
But one member of the group stood out.
The energetic 3-year old.
His grandfather describes him as a constant joy and ever-present “investigator” of his world.
As the father of four, I can appreciate an energetic “investigator.”
What I witnessed was someone who is bold and fearless.
When faced with something new (marking his name on the plastic glass, meeting new people, deciding what food to take from the buffet) he had one motto, one thing that helped him push through any perceived difficulty or lack of experience with this particular task.
He would loudly proclaim “I Do It!” and he would just go attempt whatever task was before him.
No fear or worry.
“I Do It!”
No reflection of whether or not he had the skills needed or the right training.
“I Do It!”
No calling a meeting or scheduling a call.
“I Do It!”
No panicked paralysis pondering if it was going to be perfect.
“I Do It!”
Although each attempt or task was not perfect (the permanent marker on a new shirt serves as proof), the motto and the persistence remained.
As I watched each interaction, each proclamation, and each action I found an interpretation.
“I Do It!” really means “Hey, I am new at some of these things but have ambition and I want to be given the chance to try, fail, try again, and succeed. I may not always get it right, but that is part of learning right? We are all just here trying out things, finding what works for us, and moving on to the next thing. Thanks for giving me some space to give it a shot. I am building confidence and mastery along the way.”
Thanks for the lesson.
When I get stuck, doubt myself, and wonder how to move forward, I will remember those words.
“I Do It!”
It started out like any other goal setting session. One person was a little late. When they arrived, there was instant credibility as they entered the room. They took their seat at the head of the table.
Head of the Table.
Introductions. Head of the Table had done just about everything. They were in their mid to late 80s, held prestigious positions, made a difference, and created things. Decades of life and success.
Head of the Table. Decades of Life and Success.
The goal setting and strategic vision session began. Before too long, Head of the Table (before it was time) stated a clear and specific goal that set the stage. The goal was bold, big, and a little disruptive. You could see the goal pass through the group like a wave.
Head of the Table. Decades of Life and Success. Goal shared first, Setting the Stage.
The discussion keep moving and started to flow. There were other voices, other perspectives, other ideas. As the day progressed, there were more voices, more perspectives, more ideas.
Head of the Table. Decades of Life and Success. Goal shared first, Setting the Stage. Other Perspectives, other Ideas.
Then something happened. There was a shift. Head of the Table made another bold move, yet another surprise. Head of the Table announced that after hearing the other perspectives and the other viewpoints, their original idea was not as good, not as applicable, and not what the organization needed. They had a changed mind.
A Changed Mind.
The room energy got an immediate boost. Some of the more timid and less experienced participants (who had introduced the different ideas and perspectives) found their voice. Those voices began to participate with a new-found confidence as they felt able to share their vision of the new, the different, the better.
A Changed Mind. People finding their Voice.
As the day moved towards conclusion, the goals, the vision, and the plan started to take shape. Building a plan was not the exclusive thing built that day. Excitement was building for the new future and direction of the organization.
A Changed Mind. People finding their Voice. Building Excitement for the Future and Direction.
Thank you Head of the Table for leading the way, for staying engaged and active over so many decades, and for demonstrating to all of us the power, and impact of a Changed Mind.
We seem to like history, especially our own history.
Our history was created through a series of events. We get comfortable telling that story. We have told that story many times. We keep telling that story. We like telling that story.
The pain, the struggle, the successes, the joy.
But those things happened in the past, they are not currently happening.
We keep telling that story.
We are the historian. We gather the crowd around us, and take them on the tour. We rehearsed the lines, know when to pause, and draw them in.
But the crowd eventually fades. The story is old. Tickets are unsold.
But there is something else.
Something different and new.
We can become a futurist.
The futurist tells a new story.
The futurist is setting new goals.
The futurist is moving forward.
The futurist understands past events, but not through a distorted lens of over-emphasis or limits.
The futurist embraces today while envisioning something better.
The futurist is creating.
The futurist is risking.
The futurist is living.
We have a choice to make: remain the historian, or become a futurist.
It was a privilege last week to work with a group of people trying to launch big, scary & creative ideas into the world.
They have ideas.
They want to make a difference.
They brought their big, scary & creative ideas.
We discussed what can get in the way of ideas: their style, organizational resistance and culture, and fear.
We spent some time on fear.
“What are you afraid of?”
The group had many answers, most had to do with the fear of failure.
We pushed them a little more.
“What are you really afraid of? Go a little deeper.”
A new answer emerged, and was met with silence and affirming nods.
“It is not just the fear of failure that is bothering me. What I am really afraid of is the spillover of failure that may cause people to question all of the great things I am already doing through the lens of this failure.”
The spillover of failure.
One failure tainting all the other great things we are doing.
One failure causing others to question us or question our other great work.
How many times does the spillover of failure fear prevent us from launching new ideas?
What big, scary & creative ideas would you bring into this world if the spillover of failure wasn’t in play?
What does it take to create an environment where failure is celebrated instead of feared?
We need your big, scary & creative ideas.
Don’t let the spillover of failure stop you.
Below is a great TED talk with some great reasons why to celebrate failure.
P.S. This is post #299. I wonder what big, scary & creative idea #300 will bring?
The Rockstars: the great performers in your organization.
For a while it was you. Everything connected. Everything was going your way.
You were on top.
You were the one everyone sought out.
You were the first pick to help others, mentor them, and get them up to speed.
You helped develop others.
But things change.
They began to rise.
They started to perform.
Now, they are the ones everyone seeks out.
Now, they are the first pick to help others.
A shift in Rockstar status can be disruptive. The shift can leave you feeling unsure and insecure.
“Is there still a place for me?”
“What will happen if I build and develop others, and I am no longer needed?”
At some point in your career will most likely be faced with the Rockstar Dilemma: When you move from the top performer to another role as others rise up and take their place in the organization.
The Rockstar Dilemma presents us with a choice that usually takes two different paths.
Choosing the second path is easy. We just perform, and perform, and move ahead as long as we can.
Choosing the first path is hard. We face the dilemma of performing, while helping others develop and perform, knowing that there is a chance that someday they will surpass us.
There is insecurity in the first path.
There is risk in the first path.
I hear the response every time I introduce the first path of the Rockstar Dilemma.
“But, if I develop them, I will no longer be needed. You are essentially having me work myself out of a job!”
My response is always the same.
“If you are the kind of leader who can build teams who are better than you, and can out perform you, you will never be out of a job. Organizations will pay you a lot more than you are making today to build that kind of a performance culture.”
When faced with the Rockstar Dilemma, let’s pick the right path.
When you work with people and companies, you hear a lot of stories.
Some stories leave you a little speechless.
They are young, talented, and are always working. I don’t mean they work a lot, I mean they are always working: weekends, nights, and vacations.
They feel a little overlooked.
They give their all, making personal sacrifices, and not getting any relief.
No real promotions, no real raises, no additional help.
They receive an increased pace, increased workload, and increased hours.
One day they are called into the leader’s office. They are told that the company sees them, and wants to invest in them. They have a future.
They work harder, more hours, and more projects.
They are working on a particular project that takes a lot of time, energy, and focus.
They need to get this right.
They return to the leader’s office.
They make a case for more time, help, and assistance.
No additional assistance is given.
No investment is made in them, just a simple statement.
“You know, none of this matters anyway. No one reads this stuff.”
They have been told and reminded of their value.
All the hours.
All the time.
All the sacrifices.
It should come as no surprise, that this company is struggling with high turn-over and a toxic culture.
Ironically they are trying so hard to bring value to those outside of the company, that they forgot about the value on the inside.
What message are you sending?
Do your people feel valued or Worthless?
Does your company have a high turn-over rate? Are you driving hard for results and forgetting something along the way? Does your culture promote appreciation and value, or do people feel Worthless?
If you or your company are struggling with conveying value, contact me today.
Let’s send a better message.
I have been wrestling with how to close out a project that has been consuming my mind, energy, and emotions. The project is a risk, and includes trying to help others launch their big ideas into the world.
I have learned a few things along the way.
Taking risks is hard.
Launching ideas is scary.
Fear of failing is paralyzing.
We move forward despite the resistance.
We will have doubts during the entire journey.
We will feel stuck, get stuck, and periodically wiggle free.
What do you do when you are at the end of a project?
How do you end one journey and make sure it closes out correctly?
How do we move from one project to the next?
I was recently talking to a close friend and they offered a great word.
And not just any Permission.
Two specific areas of Permission.
Permission to Rest.
Permission to Celebrate.
Permission to Rest – to acknowledge that your efforts and energy that you put into this project will require recharging afterwards and to make space and allow yourself to rest without feeling guilty, lazy, or worthless.
Permission to Celebrate – to acknowledge that you did something, created something, and made something happen, and to give yourself some credit even if it wasn’t perfect or exactly what you had hoped.
Permission to both Rest and Celebrate is difficult.
We are so “busy” that natural Rest feels like we are doing something wrong.
We are so critical and/or trying to be humble that to Celebrate feels wrong as well.
Maybe all projects should end with Permission.
Go ahead and give yourself the Permission to Rest and Celebrate.
And just in case that is hard to do, we give you Permission for both.