I am a little sad that this series is coming to an end.
You see, I asked a bunch of you to weigh in on 9 questions about friends and friendship. After this post, only 2 questions remain. It feels a little like the day before the last day of vacation. You are still relaxing, sitting by the pool, but the normal world is vying for your attention. Suddenly instead of enjoying the sun on your face, you begin to think about packing, traveling, unpacking, getting back into the routine, grocery shopping, making dinner, and doing laundry. You have to work to keep the world out of your vacation for another day. I had to remind myself to enjoy this post, this day, and not worry about what the next post may bring.
If you are totally lost, start at the beginning. Think about the questions. Take out a sheet of paper and jot down your own answers, the compare them against this smattering of wisdom, openness, and advice.
They are friends.
They have friends.
Perhaps their words, answers, and ideas will help you in your own journey.
Question 6: If you could say one thing to your friends that would help explain what you need from them, what would you say?
Question 7: How many close friends would you say you have?
Just love me for me.
Confirmation that I’m being the friend that they need me to be.
I need to know that you care, and I might need to be reassured sometimes.
Few. I could count them on one hand and have fingers to spare.
I don’t know what I need from my friends, other than to be friends.
And please don’t give up on me.
Honesty. I don’t want someone to tell me what I want to hear or what they think I want to hear.
don’t give up on me.
4 or 5.
Trust: I need to know you have my back, will be my cheerleader and defender and think the best of me.
I have a lot of folks in my life who I love deeply. But many are just too far away or seen too seldom to consider “close” friends. So I would say right now, there are 7 people I consider close/deep friends.
Question 8 and 9 remain.