They needed some coaching, so you helped encourage and develop.
You needed to run your first 5K, so they helped you train.
They needed to lose weight, so you helped with healthy options, accountability, and support.
You needed assistance with strategy, so they helped provide perspective, options, and focus.
They needed to find a better career, relationship, or life-goal, so you provided some guidance.
You were a little scattered and out there, so they helped organize and ground you.
They were a little structured and serious, so you helped them be messy and fun.
These relationships start in interesting ways.
One of you needs something, and the other is there to help.
At first the roles were clear.
One of you is the expert, coach, parent, mentor, counselor, or consultant. The other one needs what you have.
One of you is giving, the other is receiving.
Typically this approach only works for the short-term. Once the need is met, you disengage and move on.
But sometimes, these relationship continue.
These relationships begin to change.
You are Becoming Equals.
What was once mentoring becomes mutual assistance or expertise.
What was once consulting becomes sharing ideas together.
What was once coaching becomes both playing at the same level.
What was once parenting becomes more like a friendship.
Becoming Equals doesn’t happen overnight.
Becoming Equals requires both of you to shift.
Becoming Equals allows both of you to shine.
One day you notice the person who use to run a few steps behind you is now at your side, and even ahead of you.
One day you are both leading.
One day you are both moving forward.
There is a time and place for the first roles.
But there is something more.
Becoming Equals may be what makes relationships really great.
Becoming Equals may be what makes relationships last.