Sadly, a lot of times I am better in theory or on paper than I am in real life. I have certain beliefs about the way the world or people should be, how they can better connect with and work with each other and I think, write and even periodically teach these concepts. Applying these concepts to my own life has proven to be a challenge. I will give you a few examples.
Preparing to teach on emotional intelligence and becoming stressed about it and losing my cool with the kids about their homework.
Writing a blog about communicating while getting into an argument with those around me.
Teaching on coaching in the workplace while canceling my coaching session with one of my employees.
My ability to offer great advice to others while failing to take that exact same advice for my own present situation is remarkable (unfortunately).
I heard a very important idea from Jack Enter, a speaker and author. During a session on failing as a leader, he warned us that believing in something and putting it into practice are two separate things. He warns us to be careful about being satisfied with our beliefs while never executing on the actions necessary to do the steps needed to be the people and leaders we need to be.
Our (or at least my) ability to allow this disconnect between theory, who we are on paper, and real life is amazing. The ability to have two seemingly contrary positions without noticing it has become more apparent to me, especially when I fail.
Jack recommends disciplining ourselves to implement these concepts, while being accountable to others so we actually do these things. How to you make sure your theories or who you are on paper makes it into your real life?
For me, the morning phone call helps because it provides a space to be honest about where I didn’t measure up, and be accountable to others to make changes that bring my life more in line with these theories I believe.
Category: Emotional Intelligence, Knowing Yourself, Making a Difference, Modifying, Our Behaviors, Our Words, RelationshipsTags: accountability, knowing yourself, Leadership, making a difference, on paper, real life, theory, Your Style