Ironically I got to speak to a group on emotional intelligence a week before the holidays. We joked about how the class was a perfect place to learn and practice before we interacted with our families and friends at various celebrations.
Stress can run high during this season, and sometimes we need Perspective.
I found that Perspective in a post called The Tail End on one of my new favorite sites WaitButWhy.com that demonstrates visually a life time of events. Super Bowls left to watch, dumplings left to eat, visits to Fenway Park remaining…
What brought the most perspective was the remaining time the author projects he has remaining with his parents (5% remaining) and his siblings (15% remaining).
Perspective is when you suddenly realize that there may only be 15 or 20 more holidays together if you are lucky.
Perspective is when you remember that there are no more holidays with others.
Perspective is when you just want a little more time.
I did my own calculations with some people close to me and I realized that between holidays, and birthdays, and the 3 to 4 other times we hang out per year, I may only have 60 more times to connect with them.
That is it, 60 more days.
When someone is diagnosed with something critical, we tend to rally, connect, and spend more time in those remaining days. The small things fade away, as we try to savor those last moments that remain.
Ordinary time has a funny way of pretending to be in unlimited supply.
Perspective reminds us to not be fooled by time’s pretending.