After hearing similar narratives during different coaching sessions, a pattern became clear.
Different people, same narratives.
Different issues, same descriptions.
Different positions, same struggles.
“I want to write, I would love to write, but I am not good enough compared to him/her.”
“Other people in the office seem to have their act together, but not me.”
“I am not as [insert word here] as her/him.”
“That [job, career, relationship, achievement] is for someone else, not me.”
“I’m sorry…[not always for anything specific, but a response to lots of circumstances or conflicts, even when they are not at fault].”
An image of a switch came to my mind. A switch buried deep within their being that was stuck on the Less Than setting by default.
The Less Than Default Switch.
No matter what actually is occurring in their lives, the switch in this position interprets them as being Less Than others. When they achieve something great, accomplish a goal, or create something amazing, the switch discounts all of it.
Even worse, when thinking about trying something new, striving for a goal, or being creative, the Less Than Default Switch short-circuits the motivation to try.
I mentioned the switch.
Surprise. Revelation. A few tears.
“Just for a moment, imagine that switch. See it in the Less Than position…Now, turn the switch to Neutral.”
“Just think about what you could do, accomplish, try, achieve, create, or pursue now that your switch is in the Neutral position.”
Listen, to yourself and those around you. If your Less Than Default Switch is active, go ahead and give that knob a turn. Move it to Neutral. If someone around has the switch on Less Than, help them move their knob as well.
Over time, Neutral can become your new default setting.
No more discounting.
No more comparison.
Just you; allowing your gifts, talents, creativity, and art to flow.