I don’t know about you, but I spend a lot of time in the car. Commuting, shuttling kids around, running errands and my job requires me to drive around…a lot. To put things in perspective, my car is a 2005 and I have 172,000 miles on it.
Making the most of this time has become an art. Listening to podcasts of my favorite speakers and teachers, thinking about upcoming talks, or projects top the list of ways to use this time. I have also learned to use this time to connect with others.
There are a few people I call regularly during these drives to get centered, be accountable as a leader, dad, and husband, or just deepen the relationship.
Today was one of those days, with one of those calls. I will try to paraphrase some of it.
“Sometimes it would be so much easier in life if people had little flags that popped up and told you what kind of mood they were in.”
“Why?” I asked. (I know, I know, pretty deep question.)
“That way when I am angry people would see the flag and know to leave me alone. And if they were in a certain mood, I would know how to talk to them…or avoid them altogether.”
After a few minutes of trying to quickly patent this new device and develop a business plan around the “emotional flag” idea, we laughed and agreed I would show all of you the prototype. It appears below.
Maybe we were on to something. Knowing someone’s else emotional state while revealing our own, might just be the secret to great communication.
Go ahead. Fly Your Flag.